Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on from the beginning of the world. Affairs can be fraught with troubles, cause misery, and other harms. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, finances, age difference, faith education, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet dating for married.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I suppose typically though it is only the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your relatives or anybody else? You would need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they feel comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your money are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown apart, our general concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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